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Helping others when they’re struggling

It’s positive mental health month here at our blog and also in our training at Head.Set.Go! Mostly we talk about things from a personal perspective. But lately we’ve had several questions about helping others when they’re struggling with particular aspects of their mental health, be it friends, family or partners. So let’s consider how and why you might do that. …

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Why all relationships need some boring!

It's the trend these days to assume everything worthy must be eternally interesting and exciting. After all, we're always rushing off to the latest concert or buying the latest clothes or gadget. It's only natural, I suppose, to fall into believing that relationships should go the same way. Unfortunately, the only way to have constant excitement in a relationship is to …

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Mum’s the word

This Sunday in Australia, mum's the word! That's right, it's when we celebrate Mothers Day. My mum's one of my faithful readers – Happy Mothers Day Mum! I think mums are great, and becoming one was high on my bucket list from a young age. Family's a crticical connection place and mothers are a key part of that. But I'm conscious not everyone …

The Positivity Ratio – five fast facts

1. What is the Positivity Ratio? The positivity ratio* is a measure of the positive experiences and interactions within any group of people against the number of negative ones. You can measure it on just you or within any interpersonal relationship. Research over the past 30 or so years has found that all healthy relationships, families and even workplaces tend to have a higher …

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Valentine Hints for the Unromantic

I’m not one for Valentine’s Day, if truth be told. I don’t love the commercialisation of a whole lot of events, just so some people can make money. However, I am a big believer in relationships. And since Aussies do so little talking about that kind of stuff, I decided to make the most of the recent day to post something …

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A language lesson in relationships

Here’s a language lesson question for those of you wanting better relationships: How many of the people in your inner circle speak the same language? Your friends, partner, kids….?  Most? It makes life so much easier, doesn’t it? Imagine having to try to find ways to tell someone they’re late or that you want a coffee if you didn’t have …

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Be Welcoming!

Happy Australia Day. This time last year I attended a ceremony to welcome new Australians into our country – and I got a different perspective on the day. As all the dignitaries gave their welcome speeches to the new citizens, I looked over at my friends and thought (nice as that was) that it's really us ordinary people who can be …