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Australia – where do you belong?

The social fabric of Australia’s been under tension lately, with passionate arguments yelled loudly from many sources about how things should be. We live in a highly diverse country, as 2016’s census revealed. We speak 300+ languages in our homes, whilst one in five households live on less than $650 a week (that’s only $34K a year). Three in ten …

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How to change for the better

I was in a conversation with someone recently, and I asked them if they’d made any plans to change for the better this year. After a puzzled stare, they replied “Oh, you mean New Years resolutions? No, I don’t believe in making them, they never work. And I don’t have any time for them anyway, my life’s too crazy!” Actually, …

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7 ways to be well

Lose weight. Get fit. Eat better. Quit smoking. Quit drinking. According to one Australian website, these are the top resolutions we made as 2018 kicked in.  We see these as ways to be well, and the most important areas to start improving in, I guess. I find it intriguing they’re all aspects of our physical health. It’s important to care …

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Are you suffering the what the heck effect?

I love reading and learning, not the least because you sometimes come across the most intriguing ideas. The what the heck effect is one such novel discovery of recent times. What is the what the heck effect? And why might you be suffering it? Let me answer those questions in turn. The ‘What the heck?’ effect is a term coined …

Why New Year’s resolutions fail (and what you should do instead!)

Happy New Year! Have you made any resolutions yet? Are you going to? If you’re like many of us, the thought fills you with both nervy angst and a little dread. How did we get to this? Apparently, we’ve been making these resolutions for thousands of years. The tradition dates back to a Greek and Roman god named Janus – …

Peace on Earth, goodwill to all?

It was probably a Christmas carol being played in the background that triggered my thoughts of angels in the Christmas story and the idea of goodwill. What was it they said? ‘Hark the herald angels sing…!” Anyway, after the concept rattled round the edges of my brain for a few days, I decided to go re-read the story and find …

How to handle your difficult relations

Difficult relations. They’re one of the challenges of the season, and most of us have them. An aunt who talks non stop. A brother who drinks too much. Nephews or nieces who run amok; someone who’s simply mean. And that’s before you add your workplace challenges! Many people can suck the ‘happy’ out of your Christmas. And though you’ll meet …

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Stay sane in the silly season!

Some of us thrive in the end of year chaos that descends at this time. But for others this silly season can be crazy, especially given the personal meaning of Christmas’s fading for many. If you’ve been feeling that one more end of year assembly/awards night/concert or Christmas party might just kill you, here’s 15 ways you could adjust things …

Do you have soft skin? How not to take offence

I have a daughter who breaks out in welts whenever she’s bitten by a mosquito: not good in our climate! But I know more people who have soft skin of a different kind; they break out in offence at the slightest occasion. My question for us today: Is your skin so soft you spend your life suffering unnecessary pain because …

Living the good life?

Ah Christmas. Here it comes. The time of year where we seem to run faster and fit more in – and when we’re suddenly supposed to be happier. When we get to catch up with people we haven’t seen for ages and maybe don’t really like. When we eat and drink so much we put on an average of 1-1.5 …

How to talk with strangers

Anyone who’s an extrovert can probably stop reading this now. The hard work of meeting other people doesn’t exist in your world. But for those on the introvert-ambivert end of the spectrum, perhaps these reflections on how to talk with strangers may help. If you internally freeze joining a large crowd of people, or find yourself taking deep breaths as …

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3 sure bet ways to win in life

Apparently about 3 in 10 of us stopped our lives to watch a certain horse race in the past week. Last year we wagered $657 million over the four day carnival. That’s a lot of bets we were hoping to win! As an article I found in the online Age this week pointed out, that amount’s only a drop in …

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Is your pause button broken?

So, the question for you today is about stopping. Do you know how to stop and – the wriggly bit – do you actually ever do it? Or is your pause button broken? I mean, we’ve just had a weekend. Hands up who’s been running the whole time? I don’t mean exercising, I mean through your ‘days off.’ Yes, I …

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Where you’re looking determines what you feel

It was a crazily bright Winter morning. The sky was intensely blue and the sun shining, though the air was admittedly cool. Not far into my walk a guy strode towards me wearing a coat and beanie. He was under a canopy of big trees, therefore in the shade. As he passed he nodded and muttered, “Mighty chilly day!” His …

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Questions to build connection

Conversation seems to be a dwindling skill. Which is sad, because at the end of the day connection’s one of the things we most crave from others. Yet recently, many people I meet seem to be either unwilling or incapable of putting a pause in their talking to ask any questions of me. It wouldn’t matter, except questions are the secret sauce …